A skill-building approach to counseling, designed for the male brain
Ages 5-22
Linwood, New Jersey
Specializing in ADHD, anxiety with ADHD and learning disabilities
Counseling |  Social Skills Programs for Boys | Executive Function Treatment | Summer Trip Camp


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A day & overnight travel camp for boys ages 11-15 who need help improving their executive functioning, social skills and independence.
Based in Margate, NJ
Ryan Wexelblatt, LCSW, CAS
Ride the Wave Counseling and Summer Trip Camp Director
Please contact us below to discuss how we can help:

 

 

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Meet Ryan Wexelblatt

Welcome! My name is Ryan, I’m a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and School Social Worker who has spent nearly 20 years working with kids and young adults. I’m also the father to a son and an overly friendly dog with dreadlocks.

I discovered my professional passion when I was looking for resources to help my son who has his share of challenges.  Living in the Philadelphia area at the time I could not find any resources that were designed for kids with his profile so I took  learning into my own hands.   

My specialization in working with males happened organically.   Many of the Moms who reach out to me share that they have been through multiple psychologists, counselors, etc.  only to find that they do not truly address ADHD-related issues or their son’s don’t want to go to therapy because they  are asked to talk about their feelings week after week or can’t relate to the therapist.   

Other savvy Moms were looking to help their son’s improve their social skills and understood that in order to be relatable to similar-age boys their sons should learn how to connect with their peers from a male perspective.  This male approach to teaching social skills to boys drew families from all over the area.    To my knowledge, I am the only person in the country who specializes in teaching social thinking skills from a male perspective. 

While I specialize in ADHD, anxiety with ADHD and learning disabilities I also work with guys who have no formal diagnosis but may struggle with challenging behaviors, low self-confidence, social anxiety, sibling rivalry, or low frustration tolerance.  Parents are always involved in learning with their children.

Summer Trip Camp opened in 2017 as the first summer camp in the country designed for boys with ADHD or learning differences who need to improve their executive functioning, social skills and age-expected independence

Please feel free to check out my blog and YouTube channel.   You can also see a list of my past presentations to see my speaking engagements from the past year. 

I look forward to connecting with you.

Ryan Wexelblatt, LCSW
Ride the Wave Counseling & Summer Trip Camp Director

  • Licensed Clinical Social Worker in New Jersey and Pennsylvania
  • Certified New Jersey School Social Worker
  • Received Social Thinking® Clinical Training Level 1 Certificate of Completion
  • Certificate in Cognitive Behavior Therapy for Youth from the Beck Institute
  • Extensive training in executive functioning support strategies
  • Training from Temple University Children & Teen Anxiety Clinic
  • Certified Autism Specialist

View my resume here

Please contact me below:

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Why Families Choose Us

Our services are unlike any child psychologist, counselor, therapist, etc. in the area. 

As many parents have learned, traditional talk therapy/counseling is often counter-intuitive to how the male brain works. Treatment often looks like attempting to get boys to verbalize their innermost thoughts and feelings.   In reality, most boys and young men don’t operate this way. 

Parents of boys diagnosed with ADHD, anxiety with ADHD and related challenges have learned that traditional counseling is not designed to address lagging social, executive functioning and emotional regulation skills associated with ADHD. 

Families choose Ride the Wave Counseling because our approach is about teaching practical strategies and skills designed in a manner for how the male brain learns best.   We do not simply sit in a room and talk about feelings week after week.  Rather, we teach practical skills and strategies.  Parents are always involved in learning with their children.  

We understand from a male perspective how to make therapy a positive and productive experience for boys and young men who may have any aversion to participating based on their past experiences in counseling.

Skill we teach include:

  • Learning how to develop close friendships with similar-age boys
  • Managing video game/screen time so it is not one’s primary form of social connection
  • Replacing self-defeating thoughts with realistic thoughts in order to improve self-esteem and self-confidence
  • Managing emotions in an age-expected manner
  • Overcoming social anxiety in order to spend time with peers in real life, not just through video games
  • Developing motivation and resiliency to get through non-preferred tasks such as homework, chores, etc. 
  • Learning how to say “No”  to peer pressure while still fitting in with one’s peer group
  • Becoming more responsible for one’s school success

Ride the Wave Counseling is the only practice in South Jersey that specializes in working with boys and their parents.   We welcome the opportunity to speak with you to discuss how we can help your son be the best version of himself.

Please contact us to discuss next steps, we look forward to meeting your family. 

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Does your son have ADHD?

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Ride the Wave Counseling works with boys and young adults who present with ADHD, anxiety with ADHD, and related challenges.

Does this describe your son’s challenges?

Social Skills

  • May be able to initially make friends but has trouble keeping them
  • Trouble understanding social cues 
  • Will act silly to get negative attention from peers
  • Has difficulty “reading a room”
  • Feels more comfortable communicating with younger children or adults than peers
  • Tends to have one-sided conversations, talks at people about his interests
  • Frequently interrupts others or says things impulsively, lacks a “filter”
  • Can be inflexible, often says “No” to anything new
  • Labels other kids with ADHD as “annoying” or “weird” despite the fact he acts like them
  • Lacks understanding how he is perceived by others
  • Has difficulty understanding other’s thoughts and feelings
  • Tries to be part of a peer group who is not accepting of him
  • Has a tendency to “police” other kids and tries to control them
  • Had friends in elementary school but became more socially isolated when he got to  5th/6th grade
  • Struggles in unstructured or semi-structured social situations but does O.K. in structured situations

Executive Function Skills

  • Has a hard time sensing the passage of time
  • Difficulty tolerating boredom and non-preferred tasks
  • Needs constant prompting and supervision to get through any type of non-preferred tasks.
  • Believes homework will take much longer than it actually will
  • Struggles during unstructured times
  • Can be impulsive, does things without thinking about outcome or consequences
  • Chronically disorganized, forgets or looses materials
  • Under or over-estimates how long it will take to complete assignments
  • Has a hard time recalling how he performed a task in the past
  • Difficulty with future planning
  • Has a hard time self-monitoring himself and his schedule
  • Becomes easily distracted and/or wastes time with trivial matters
  • Focuses on small details and has a hard time getting the “bigger picture”
  • Has a messy school backpack or carries around too much
  • Completes homework but forgets to turn it in
  • Struggles with reading comprehension (remembers details but has a hard time summarizing)
  • Has a hard time with writing

Emotional Regulation Skills

  • Appears to be several years behind in his social and emotional maturity compared to same-age peers
  • Difficulty differentiating between “small problems” and “big problems”
  • Perseverates on the negative and has trouble letting go of things that bother him/her
  • Has difficulty when there are changes in routine or during transitions
  • Becomes argumentative or explosive when told to get off video games/computer
  • Has a hard time solving problems, wants you to solve problems for him/her
  • Tries to avoid non-preferred tasks
  • Lashes out at family when upset/angry and then is remorseful
  • Makes self-defeating comments
  • Does not understand how his tone of voice sounds to others
  • Has difficulty with competition
  • Low frustration tolerance
  • Holds it together during school and becomes irritable or more difficult to deal with after school

Your child needs to learn learn practical skills and strategies in a manner designed for how he learns best.   Traditional therapy/counseling is not designed for individuals with ADHD or related challenges.

Areas we frequently work on during our sessions/groups include:

  • Developing age-expected emotional regulation skills
  • Improving compliance at home
  • Developing resiliency to get through non-preferred tasks
  • Understanding how to be relatable to your similar-age peers
  • Improving cognitive flexibility (being less “black and white” in thought process)
  • Learning how to differentiate between what’s a “small problem” or “big problem”
  • Reducing compulsive video gaming/internet usage
  • Managing morning routine, homework, etc. more independently
  • Developing independent problem solving skills
  • Improving perspective taking ability (understanding other’s thoughts/feelings & understanding how you come across to others)
  • Improving self-confidence
  • Cultivating and sustaining friendships

Topics frequently addressed with parents include:

  • Improving compliance and avoiding power struggles
  • Transitioning off of screen time
  • Helping your child develop resiliency to complete non-preferred tasks
  • Improving executive function skills (going from being prompt-dependent to independent)
  • Setting realistic expectations at home
  • Helping your child shift from a sense of entitlement towards a motivation to earn things
  • Understanding how to move your child away from being over-dependent to feeling empowered
  • Managing your child’s emotional/behavioral dysregulation at home so family life is not revolving around your child’s moods and behaviors
  • Communicating with your child about difficult/uncomfortable topics

Please contact us to discuss how we can help your family.

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Does your son lack close friends?

Does your son lack friendships with similar-age boys?

  • Does he spend most of his free time playing video games/watching videos and does not get invitations from peers?
  • Does he say his “friends” are people who he games with online?   
  • Can he make friends but has trouble keeping them?
  • Did he have friends in elementary school but seemed to lack friendships starting in middle school?
  • Does he say “no” when you ask him to invite someone over or suggest social activities to him?
  • Does he try to fit in with a group of peers who do not not accept him?
  • Has your son had an easier time talking to younger kids or adults?
  • Does he judge other kids as being “weird” or “annoying” yet often acts similar to them?

Despite the fact that they may not articulate their need for close friendships boys absolutely need close connections with similar-age boys. 

There are various reasons why boys may lack friendships including social anxiety, low self-confidence or a lack of understanding of what other boys need in friendships.  Additionally, many boys do not feel safe sharing their innermost feelings with other boys their age despite because they are fearful of rejection. 

Ride the Wave Counseling offers both individual counseling and counseling groups for boys .   Group counseling can be a particularly powerful experience for boys as they learn to feel safe expressing themselves while having fun spending time among a group of similar-age boys.

Skills we teach include:

  • Strategies to manage social anxiety around similar-age peers
  • Understanding how you come across to other’s
  • Understanding other’s thoughts, feelings and intentions
  • How to show other guys that you want to be friends
  • One’s responsibility in sustaining friendships
  • Social problem solving skills
  • How to share emotions in a safe way with other guys
  • How to go from “school friends” to “outside of school friends”

Please contact us to discuss next steps.