A skill-building approach to counseling, designed for the male brain

Specializing in ADHD, anxiety with ADHD and learning disabilities

Offices in Linwood, NJ and Bryn Mawr, PA
Ages 7-22
Counseling |  Social Skills Programs | Executive Function Treatment | Summer Trip Camp
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A day & overnight travel camp for boys entering grades 6-9 who need help improving their executive functioning, social skills and independence.
Based in Margate, NJ
Ryan Wexelblatt, LCSW, CAS
Ride the Wave Counseling and Summer Trip Camp Director
Please contact us below to discuss how we can help

 

 

 

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Meet Ryan Wexelblatt

Welcome! My name is Ryan, I’m a Licensed Clinical Social Worker who has spent nearly 20 years working with kids and young adults as a School Social Worker, Camp Director and Clinician. I’m also the father to a son and an overly friendly dog with dreadlocks.

I created Ride the Wave Counseling because I saw a tremendous need for a new approach to counseling, designed specifically for males.   Therapy was not designed for boys.  The act of sitting across from someone who asks you to verbalize your innermost feelings is not how the male brain works which is why so many boys and young adults have adverse experiences in traditional “talk therapy”/counseling.

My approach is about teach practical skills and strategies in a manner designed for how the male brain learns best.  While I specialize in ADHD, anxiety with ADHD, learning disabilities and related challenges I also work with guys who have no formal diagnosis. Parents are always involved in learning with their children.

Summer Trip Camp opened in 2017 as the first summer camp in the country designed for boys with ADHD or learning differences who need to improve their executive functioning, social skills and age-expected independence

Please feel free to check out my blog and YouTube channel.   You can also see a list of my past presentations to see my speaking engagements from the past year. 

I look forward to connecting with you.

Ryan Wexelblatt, LCSW, CAS
Ride the Wave Counseling & Summer Trip Camp Director

  • Licensed Clinical Social Worker in New Jersey and Pennsylvania
  • Certified New New Jersey School Social Worker
  • Certified Autism Specialist
  • Received Social Thinking® Clinical Training Level 1 Certificate of Completion
  • Certificate in Cognitive Behavior Therapy for Youth from the Beck Institute
  • Extensive training in executive functioning support strategies
  • Training from Temple University Children & Teen Anxiety Clinic

View my resume here

Please contact me below:

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Does your child have ADHD?

Ryan Wexelblatt Adhd Therapy || Ride the Wave

Ride the Wave Counseling  works with boys and girls who present with ADHD and learning differences.

Does this describe your child’s challenges?

Social Skills

  • May be able to initially make friends but has trouble keeping them
  • Trouble understanding social cues 
  • Can initially make friends but then becomes “smothering”
  • Appears awkward and has difficulty initiating conversations with similar-age peers
  • Feels more comfortable communicating with younger children or adults than similar-age peers
  • Spends most free time alone, playing video games or watching videos of people playing video games
  • Tends to have one-sided conversations, talks at people about his/her interests
  • Frequently interrupts others or says things impulsively, lacks a “filter”
  • Can be inflexible, often says “No” to anything new
  • Says “friends” are people he/she speaks to online
  • Labels other kids with ADHD as “annoying” or “weird” despite the fact he acts like them
  • Lacks understanding how he/she is perceived by others
  • Has difficulty understanding other’s thoughts and feelings
  • Tries to be part of a peer group who is not accepting of him/her
  • Has a tendency to “police” other kids and tries to control them
  • Acts like the “class clown” in order to gain attention from peers
  • Had friends in elementary school but became more socially isolated when he got to middle school
  • Struggles in unstructured or semi-structured social situations

Executive Function Skills

  • Has a hard time sensing the passage of time
  • Difficulty tolerating boredom and non-preferred tasks
  • Needs constant prompting and supervision to get through any type of non-preferred tasks.
  • Believes homework will take much longer than it actually will
  • Struggles during unstructured times
  • Can be impulsive, does things without thinking about outcome or consequences
  • Chronically disorganized, forgets or looses materials
  • Under or over-estimates how long it will take to complete assignments
  • Has a hard time recalling how he performed a task in the past
  • Difficulty with future planning
  • Has a hard time self-monitoring himself and his schedule
  • Becomes easily distracted and/or wastes time with trivial matters
  • Focuses on small details and has a hard time getting the “bigger picture”
  • Has a messy school backpack or carries around too much
  • Completes homework but forgets to turn it in
  • Struggles with reading comprehension (remembers details but has a hard time summarizing)
  • Has a hard time with writing

Emotional Regulation Skills

  • Appears to be several years behind in his/her social and emotional maturity compared to same-age peers
  • Difficulty differentiating between “small problems” and “big problems”
  • Perseverates on the negative and has trouble letting go of things that bother him/her
  • Has difficulty when there are changes in routine or during transitions
  • Becomes argumentative or explosive when told to get off video games/computer
  • Has a hard time solving problems, wants you to solve problems for him/her
  • Tries to avoid non-preferred tasks
  • Lashes out at family when upset/angry and then is remorseful
  • Makes self-defeating comments
  • Does not understand how his tone of voice sounds to others
  • Has difficulty with competition
  • Low frustration tolerance
  • Holds it together during school and becomes irritable or more difficult to deal with after school

Your child needs to learn learn practical skills and strategies in a manner designed for how he learns best.   Traditional therapy/counseling is not designed for individuals with ADHD or related challenges.

Areas we frequently work on during our sessions/groups include:

  • Developing age-expected emotional regulation skills
  • Improving compliance at home
  • Developing resiliency to get through non-preferred tasks
  • Understanding how to be relatable to your similar-age peers
  • Improving cognitive flexibility (being less “black and white” in thought process)
  • Learning how to differentiate between what’s a “small problem” or “big problem”
  • Reducing compulsive video gaming/internet usage
  • Managing morning routine, homework, etc. more independently
  • Developing independent problem solving skills
  • Improving perspective taking ability (understanding other’s thoughts/feelings & understanding how you come across to others)
  • Improving self-confidence
  • Cultivating and sustaining friendships

Topics frequently addressed with parents include:

  • Improving compliance and avoiding power struggles
  • Transitioning off of screen time
  • Helping your child develop resiliency to complete non-preferred tasks
  • Improving executive function skills (going from being prompt-dependent to independent)
  • Setting realistic expectations at home
  • Helping your child shift from a sense of entitlement towards a motivation to earn things
  • Understanding how to move your child away from being over-dependent to feeling empowered
  • Managing your child’s emotional/behavioral dysregulation at home so family life is not revolving around your child’s moods and behaviors
  • Communicating with your child about difficult/uncomfortable topics

Please contact us to discuss how we can help your family.

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Groups for Boys with ADHD or Learning Differences

Group in Bryn Mawr, PA & Linwood, NJ

  • Does your son have any close friends his age?
  • Can he make friends but seems to have trouble keeping them?
  • Does he relate better to younger kids or adults than his same-age peers?
  • Does he struggle with planning ahead?
  • Are you constantly prompting him to get things done?
  • Has therapy not been very effective in helping to develop his social and executive function skills? 

Our groups provide an opportunity for boys to connect with similar-age boys learn skills and strategies they need to be successful in life.

Our groups are not “social skills groups” where we sit around and role play scripted, behaviors or learn overly formal etiquette that is not natural to the way boys communicate we each other.  We teach skills & strategies to make and sustain friendships with similar-age boys and improve executive function skills.  Groups are structured but informal and most importantly, they’re fun.  

In group your son will learn:

  • Understanding how he comes across to others and understanding others’ thoughts/feelings
  • Being flexible for the sake of being part of a group/working with others
  • Managing social anxiety around similar-age peers
  • Learning how to feel the passage of time
  • Differentiating between small & big problems, solving problems independently
  • Showing interest in other boys in order to cultivate friendships
  • Learning how to go from “lunch table friends” to “outside of school friends”
  • How to plan ahead and break tasks into manageable parts

Click on the links below to learn more about what we do in groups:

Limited availability left in groups in Bryn Mawr.  Linwood groups starting soon.

Please fill out the contact form below to discuss next steps.

 

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Why Families Choose Us

The boys and young adults we work with have many strengths, great qualities, and tremendous potential.  As reported by their parents, the vast majority have not benefited from traditional therapy or social skills groups.

Traditional talk therapy/counseling is often counter-intuitive to how the male brain works. Treatment often looks like attempting to get the individual to verbalize his innermost thoughts and feelings.   In reality, most boys and young men don’t operate this way.  Furthermore, traditional counseling is not designed to address lagging social, executive functioning and emotional regulation skills associated with ADHD and related challenges.

Families choose Ride the Wave Counseling because our approach is about teaching practical strategies and skills in a structured but informal environment. Parents are always involved in learning with their children.  

We understand from a male perspective how to make therapy a positive and productive experience for boys and young men who may have any aversion to participating in therapy based on their past experiences.

Please contact us to discuss next steps, we look forward to meeting your family.