Saying "you over-reacted" to a kid with ADHD (who struggles with emotional regulation and putting problem sizes in in a relevant context) is an abstract concept. It's abstract because: 1. if he has difficulty with perspective taking skills he has difficulty understanding why others might not perceive a problem size the same as he does. … Continue reading Teaching context when it comes to defining problem sizes.
We do "social fakes" all the time, often with our kids. A social fake is when you fake that you're interested in what somebody was saying or in a conversation so others have good thoughts and feel comfortable around you. Many boys with ADHD are "black or white thinkers". As a result, they often do … Continue reading Teaching a 9th grader than necessity of doing “social fakes”.
This is the visual I use to teach kids how anxiety works. On the left is the anxiety "curve" meaning that when anxiety goes up it will always come down. The "cliff" on the right shows how avoiding anxiety causes it to temporarily go away but it is not teaching how to get over the … Continue reading Teaching kids with ADHD how to manage anxiety
I don't hide the fact that I think the vast majority of social skills groups are not a productive use of time. I have worked with many boys who have attended social skills groups in school. When I learn that they have attended a social skills group, I always (informally) assess whether they have been … Continue reading Why you should think about asking for your son to be removed from his social skills group in school this year.
I had read the article when I came out and had forgotten about it because it was one of many articles that perpetuates a false narrative about males. I saw this article re-posted today and I'm going to assume it was posted as a result of the horrific mass shootings that have occurred over the … Continue reading It’s time to stop pathologizing boys because they’re not genetically wired to communicate like girls-Ryan Wexelblatt, LCSW