Saying "you over-reacted" to a kid with ADHD (who struggles with emotional regulation and putting problem sizes in in a relevant context) is an abstract concept. It's abstract because: 1. if he has difficulty with perspective taking skills he has difficulty understanding why others might not perceive a problem size the same as he does. … Continue reading Teaching context when it comes to defining problem sizes.
We do "social fakes" all the time, often with our kids. A social fake is when you fake that you're interested in what somebody was saying or in a conversation so others have good thoughts and feel comfortable around you. Many boys with ADHD are "black or white thinkers". As a result, they often do … Continue reading Teaching a 9th grader than necessity of doing “social fakes”.
I don't hide the fact that I think the vast majority of social skills groups are not a productive use of time. I have worked with many boys who have attended social skills groups in school. When I learn that they have attended a social skills group, I always (informally) assess whether they have been … Continue reading Why you should think about asking for your son to be removed from his social skills group in school this year.
Because kids with ADHD have difficulty feeling the passage of time many do not have a sense of urgency when needed which can be very frustrating to their families. Others can being impatient with others yet get very upset when others become impatient with them. Due to their difficulty with perspective taking they don't always … Continue reading Teaching having a sense of urgency & patience during Summer Trip Camp
If you are around age 40 or older, you grew up in a time when ADHD was rarely diagnosed. Often, the guys who we went to school with who had (undiagnosed) ADHD may have been the guys who would come into school high, reeking of pot. Other ones were placed in special ed classes, often … Continue reading A message for fathers: Don’t let a condition your son didn’t ask for define your relationship with him.