Does this describe your son?
- Did well in high school with lots of “hovering” by parents, teachers, etc.
- Had the support of a 504 plan or IEP which ensured that he could not fail.
- Was “prompt dependent” throughout high school (always needed to be told what to do, constantly reminded of things, etc).
- Has difficulty managing his screen time (video games, phone, YouTube).
- Does not complete non-preferred tasks or avoids anything he doesn’t find interesting.
- Did not utilize the support services available at his college.
- Stopped going to classes during his first semester of college.
- Had to withdraw during first semester or failed most of his classes.
Each year we see many young adults (typically between age 19-20) who were not able to complete their first semester or college or who failed most of their classes during their first semester.
The reasons for this include of one or more of the following:
- Delayed executive functioning skills that may have been further delayed as a result of parents, teachers, etc. doing this for the individual that he should be doing himself.
- An inability to manage screen time, particularly around video games.
- Lack of resiliency and self-directed talk to get through non-preferred tasks
- Parents did not allow the individual to experience natural consequences
- Lack of self-advocacy skills
- Academic ability is not congruent with their social/emotional maturity
We teach the following skills and strategies to young adults who have not been successful at college or those who have been lacking direction after school:
- Developing internal motivation by figuring out potential career paths and setting short-term goals that can be easily achieved.
- Learning executive functioning strategies to learn how to manage time more effectively, prioritize and complete tasks.
- Developing an “internal dialogue” to get through non-preferred tasks and improve resiliency.
- Manage screen time/gaming time and using it as a reward for accomplishing goals,
- Developing the skills to become more independent and less reliant on parents.
- (For Parents) Learning how to stop enabling their young adult, helping them develop independence and allowing them to learn from natural consequences.
Please contact us to discuss what we can to do help your young adult be successful, he has the potential!