Does your son lack close friends?

  • Does he seem to prefer video games/the internet to spending time with similar-age peers in real life?
  • Can your son make friends but has trouble keeping them?
  • Did he have friends in elementary school but seemed to lack friendships starting in middle school?
  • Does he say that he has friends at school but never gets invited to get-togethers or says no when you ask if he wants to invite anyone over?
  • Does he try to fit in with a social group who does not accept him?
  • Has your son had an easier time talking to younger kids or adults?
  • Does he say he has friends online whom he games with yet knows little to nothing about them?

Despite the fact that they may not articulate their need for close friendships boys share emotions with each other and need close connections with similar-age boys. 

There are various reasons why boys may lack friendships including social anxiety, low self-confidence or a lack of understanding of what other boys need in friendships.  Additionally, many boys do not feel safe sharing their innermost feelings with other boys their age despite because they are fearful of rejection. 

Ride the Wave Counseling offers both individual counseling and counseling groups for boys and college-age young adults.   Group counseling can be a particularly powerful experience for boys as they learn to feel safe expressing themselves while having fun spending time amongst a group of similar-age boys.

Skills we teach include:

  • Strategies to manage social anxiety around similar-age peers
  • Understanding how you come across to other’s
  • Understanding other’s thoughts, feelings and intentions
  • How to show other guys that you want to be friends
  • One’s responsibility in sustaining friendships
  • Social problem solving skills
  • How to share emotions in a safe way with other guys
  • How to go from “school friends” to “outside of school friends”

Please contact us to discuss next steps.