Does this describe your son in High School?
- Has a hard time in unstructured social settings
- Had friends in elementary school but seemed to become more socially isolated when he got to middle school
- Spends most of his weekends home alone, in front of video games/computers
- Does not initiate plans with “school friends” and does not get invited places
- Says “friends” are kids he plays online video games with
- Seem to sometimes “lack a filter” or not pick up on social cues
- Relates better to younger children and adults than his similar-age peers
- Tries to fit in with a group of peers who are not accepting of him
- Says he has” friends” that he plays video games or sits at lunch with yet knows little about them
- Labels other kids who behave similar to him as “annoying” or “weird” because he doesn’t realize how he comes across to others
- Finds it easier to engage in screen-based activities to spending time with peers in real-life
Despite not expressing this, High School can be a very lonely time for boys who have difficulty understanding how to connect with similar-age boys in real life.
Our groups for boys in high school focus on teaching social and executive functioning skills. The boys who attend our groups enjoy spending time and learning together in an environment where they can be themselves. Our groups are designed for boys who present with ADHD or learning differences.
Topics covered in our high school groups include:
- Understanding other’s thoughts and feelings and how you come across to others
- Developing situational awareness (reading a room)
- Learning to be more flexible for the sake of being part of a group
- Being able to take directions from peers and give directions without being bossy
- Learning how to make plans and scaffold “hanging out” time
- Showing an interest in other boys to show them you want to be friends in ways that sound natural (aka not sounding like you walked out of a social skills group)
- Putting problems in a relevant context and engaging in independent problem solving skills
- Learning how to spend time with other boys, without the use of electronics
- Sharing the right amount of information in conversations ( having reciprocal conversations instead of talking at other kids about your interests)
- Understanding the increased social expectations around hygiene/puberty
- Learning the “hidden rules” of male-male social communication
Our groups are based on the Social Thinking methodology and incorporate executive functioning strategies from Cognitive Connections, LLC as well as cognitive behavior strategies. Ryan Wexelblatt, Ride the Wave Director has completed more training in these methodologies than any provider of social learning programs in the area.
Please contact us to discuss how we can help your son connect with other boys, improve his executive functioning and social competency.